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Will My Ex Come Back To Me? How To Know.

In this video Coach Lee answers the question, "Will my ex come back to me?" If you have been broken up with and are wondering how to know if my ex will come back to me and what the chances are of your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend coming back to you wanting to get back together, this video will give you some indications of the likelihood of their return. Find out how to know if your ex will come back to you by listening to this powerful message by Coach Lee.

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Videos mentioned in this one:

Stages An Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

Your Ex’s Journey Back To You: https://youtube.com/watch?v=iooao52p_X8

Clues That Your Ex Wants You Back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fKEvp6Rz0HQ

Read the accompanying article to this video at https://myexbackcoach.com/will-my-ex-come-back-to-me/

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Interview With A Dumper Who Came Back

Note Before You LISTEN! The answers provided are REAL but they are READ. These are NOT live interviews. It was better for these two dumpers to write out their answers and then read them so that they were deliberate about what they shared and felt good about their answers after giving it some thought.

In the future, I'll try to do some where they don't know the questions ahead of time but there's a lot to consider when you are delving into people's personal lives and they were generous to do what they did.

In this podcast, Coach Lee interviews two people who dumped their ex but found their way back after the people who were dumped followed the Emergency Breakup Kit which you can get at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/ and the Emergency Marriage Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-marriage-kit/

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Why The No Contact Rule Works: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2v_9UTypfCs&t=14s

The Mind of Your Ex During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s

What Your Ex Is Feeling During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eM-gi4ESjZs

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

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Exes Say The Darndest Things, But What Do They Mean?

What does it mean when an ex says that I deserve better? Or when an ex says, "I need to work on myself"?

Coach Lee discusses what you can really interpret from what an ex says when they break up with you and how it can impact your strategy going forward if you want to get back together or reunite with him or her.

See the accompanying article at: What does an ex's excuses at a breakup mean

On Medium: What does it mean when an ex says or gives excuses to breakup

Get information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

Navigating Post-Breakup Conversations: Guidance from Coach Lee

Entering the complex emotional landscape post-breakup, individuals often find themselves trying to decipher their ex's parting words. As Coach Lee, I aim to provide clarity and direction in understanding these statements, discerning their real implications, and shaping your approach to possibly mending or moving on from the relationship.

Deciphering Parting Words

At the end of a relationship, your ex may utter phrases that seem deep or unarguable, like "You deserve someone better" or "I need time to find myself." Recognize these for what they often are—strategies to mitigate discomfort and facilitate a smoother separation. These words, while seemingly profound, are typically more about your ex's current emotional state and less about a definitive statement on the relationship's future potential.

The Emotional State at Breakup

It's crucial to remember that sentiments expressed during a breakup are reflections of a momentary emotional landscape, not permanent fixtures. The tumultuous nature of breakups means that feelings, regrets, and desires are all in flux. As such, the declarations made in these moments are subject to change as time progresses and emotions settle.

Responding to Claims of "Deservedness" and Self-Improvement

When an ex suggests that you "deserve someone better" or that they must focus on their own growth, it might come across as insincere or even condescending. Rather than getting entangled in these assertions, it's often more beneficial to turn your attention inward, focusing on personal development and emotional healing.

Attraction's Influence in Relationship Dynamics

Understand that a diminished sense of attraction often lies beneath the decision to end a relationship. While the reasons given during the breakup might vary, a fundamental loss of attraction is a common undercurrent. However, this doesn't mean all hope is lost. Attraction is dynamic and can be rebuilt with time, effort, and genuine personal growth.

Strategies for the Post-Breakup Period: No Contact and Self-Focus

Implementing a no-contact period can be an effective strategy following a breakup. It provides essential space for both parties to reflect and heal. Simultaneously, engaging in self-improvement and pursuing interests that enhance your personal life can increase your happiness and potentially rekindle attraction from your ex.

Embracing Authenticity and Necessary Changes

If specific behaviors or issues contributed to the breakup, genuinely acknowledging and addressing these areas is crucial. Should the relationship get a second chance, demonstrating real understanding and change can profoundly affect its dynamics. Ensure these changes are authentic and aligned with your personal growth, not just temporary adjustments aimed at reconciliation.

Embracing the Uncertainty with a Forward-Looking Attitude

While a breakup might feel like a definitive conclusion, emotions and circumstances can evolve over time. The statements made by your ex during this time often reflect temporary feelings rather than fixed predictions. By prioritizing your growth and well-being, you position yourself for a healthier future, whether that involves reuniting with your ex or embarking on new beginnings.

In closing, as Coach Lee, I encourage you to stay informed and resilient. Subscribe and follow for continued insights into navigating relationship dynamics, understanding breakup psychology, and fostering personal development. With the right perspective and actions, this challenging time can lead to significant growth and new opportunities.

Videos

Mentioned In This One: Stages Ex Goes Through - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

My Ex Said There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

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Do Love Spells Work To Get An Ex Back?

Coach Lee shares experiences of people who tried love spells and so-called spell casters to get their ex back after a breakup.

This is a must-hear podcast if you have just been broken up with and are feeling desperate or hopeless. If you are considering paying someone do put a love spell on your ex, listen to the experiences of clients before working with Coach Lee.

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Steps To Get My Ex Back

Coach Lee shares 3 steps to get your ex back after they broke up with you. Because having a plan you can refer back to on difficult days is important, Lee breaks down each step in detail but to where it makes sense.

This is a must-hear podcast if you have just been broken up with or are feeling overwhelmed by all the advice floating around about how to get your ex back after a breakup.

Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

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Videos Mentioned In This One:

The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYEAWNvtaTk

Strategic (Intelligent) Contact VS No Contact: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EcA47MmHP_I

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Why Won’t My Ex Talk To Me?

Wondering why your ex won't talk to you after breaking up with you? Or why your ex isn't returning calls, texts, or to you at all?

Coach Lee explains why your ex is not talking to you and what you can do about it. This is especially true if you want to know why your ex is ignoring you and not answering your questions about the future of your relationship along with how they feel.

Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? 

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact

Why Is My Ex So Cruel?

See the accompanying article to this video at: Why Won't My Ex Talk To Me?  

On Medium: Why Isn't My Ex Talking To Me?

Unraveling the Silence: Exploring Why Your Ex May Not Be Communicating

In addressing the puzzling question of why an ex-partner might choose not to communicate post-breakup, it's essential to delve into the complex emotions and dynamics at play. This exploration is particularly relevant for those feeling bewildered or blindsided by a sudden end to a relationship that, until recently, seemed filled with love and connection.

Navigating the Post-Breakup Confusion

The aftermath of a breakup often leaves one reeling with shock and confusion. There's an inherent desire to reach out, to have a conversation that could magically mend the fractures. However, in my two decades of experience in relationship recovery, I've observed that such attempts to initiate dialogue are unlikely to yield the desired reconciliation and might, in fact, drive your ex further away.

Why Your Ex Might Be Avoiding Contact

1. Avoidance of Discomfort: Often, an ex might choose not to communicate simply to evade the uncomfortable and confrontational aspects of a breakup. They might prefer to distance themselves from the emotional turmoil, adopting an avoidance strategy that allows them to move forward without facing the pain they've caused.

2. Battling with Guilt: If your ex is struggling with feelings of guilt over the breakup, they might find it challenging to face you. Unlike those who choose avoidance, these individuals are actively troubled by the hurt they've inflicted, yet they might still be reluctant to resume communication, believing that staying apart is the better path.

3. Fear of Emotional Vulnerability: In some cases, an ex's silence could stem from their fear of succumbing to emotional vulnerability. They might still have strong feelings for you but are apprehensive about engaging in communication that could lead them back into a relationship they're unsure about.

4. Resentment or Anger: If the breakup was the result of something hurtful you did, such as infidelity or damaging remarks, your ex's refusal to talk could be driven by anger. In these instances, it's crucial to respect their need for space.

5. Presence of a New Relationship: The involvement of a new person in your ex's life can significantly influence their willingness to communicate. While this might be painful, it doesn't necessarily eliminate the possibility of reconciliation in the future.

The Strategy of No Contact

In light of these reasons, the 'No Contact' rule becomes a vital strategy. It's about more than just refraining from initiating communication; it's about allowing your ex to fully experience the breakup and its consequences. This period of silence can also be a time for personal growth and self-improvement on your part.

Conclusion

Understanding your ex's reluctance to communicate requires a nuanced examination of the emotional landscape following a breakup. By respecting their need for space and focusing on your personal development, you create a potential environment for reconciliation, should it be a mutually desired outcome. Healing and reconnection are processes that demand patience, understanding, and often, a strategic approach like 'No Contact'.

No Contact and the Power of Time On Your Ex

Coach Lee explains how no contact and the power of time work on your ex to help you get them back after a breakup.

Just like a cake in the oven, time to bake is part of the recipe. Turning up the heat won't cook the cake faster - it will just destroy it.

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Videos Mentioned In This One:

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact 

Is Your Ex Over You? 

The FriendZone and Your Ex 

Why Is My Ex So Cruel? 

No Contact and Marriage

Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

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Watch the video version of this podcast at: No Contact and the Power of Time

On Life Coach Hub at: No Contact and Time's Power After A Breakup

No Contact and the Power of Time: Understanding the Healing Process

Delving into the concept of 'No Contact' and its interplay with time can offer profound insights into the healing and reconciliation process post-breakup. This approach, frequently discussed in my relationship coaching sessions and videos, draws an analogy to baking a cake, where time is a crucial ingredient that cannot be rushed or bypassed.

The Role of Time in Cooling Off and Reflection

In situations where a breakup was fueled by intense arguments and hurtful exchanges, time acts as a cooling agent. It allows both parties to step back, reflect, and potentially recognize that the relationship might be worth salvaging. This cooling-off period is essential to dissipate the anger and hurt that could have clouded judgment during the heat of the moment.

Time Helps in Affirming the Breakup Decision

Most breakups are not impulsive decisions but are the culmination of prolonged periods of doubt and dissatisfaction. Your ex likely grappled with their feelings for weeks or months before deciding to end the relationship. This period of contemplation means that your ex will also need time post-breakup to be sure about their decision to leave. They might need to experience life without you to truly understand whether the breakup was the right choice.

The Importance of Experiencing the Breakup

It’s vital for your ex to genuinely experience the breakup. This means feeling the absence of your presence and companionship. If you continue to stay in contact, it alleviates their sense of loss, making it easier for them to move on without truly understanding the gravity of their decision. No contact, therefore, is not just about staying silent; it's about letting your ex feel the weight of their choice.

The Healing Power of Missing and Longing

Missing someone can be a powerful catalyst for change. When your ex starts to miss you, it brings into sharp focus the value you added to their life. This realization often comes only when there is a significant gap in communication, reinforcing the idea that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'. The time apart allows your ex to reflect on the relationship with a clearer, more appreciative perspective.

Reunion: The Culmination of Time Apart

When the time comes for a potential reunion, the emotions and memories associated with your absence can be overwhelming for your ex. If you have focused on self-improvement during the no contact period, this reunion becomes even more impactful. It's a moment where the accumulated feelings of longing and realization come to the fore, often leading to a renewed appreciation and desire for the relationship.

Moving Slowly Post-Reunion

Once a reunion is on the horizon, it's crucial to approach it with caution and patience. Jumping back into the relationship too quickly can lead to 'buyer's remorse'. Instead, moving slowly and allowing the relationship to rebuild gradually on a new, more solid foundation is the key to long-term success.

Conclusion

Time, in conjunction with the no contact rule, serves as a powerful tool in the post-breakup healing process. It allows both parties to cool off, reflect, and truly understand the implications of their decision. For the one who was broken up with, it offers a chance to grow and improve. For the ex, it provides an opportunity to miss and value what they had. Ultimately, time can lead to a deeper, more meaningful reunion, but only if it's given the respect and space it deserves in the healing journey.

Should I Write A Closure Letter To My Ex?

In this podcast, I want to answer the question, "Should you write a closure letter to your ex?"

What I'm referring to is a hand-written letter (or email) in which you express your feelings, apologize for your contributions to the breakup, and tell your ex that because they haven't come back to you at this point, you are moving on. Some call it a "goodbye letter to an ex."

What you had in mind might be slightly different or could not include all of what I mentioned.

Determining if you should send such a letter doesn't require all of the traits I mentioned above.

So should you write it?

I'll answer in this podcast.

See the accompanying article: Should I Write A Closure Letter To My Ex

Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

Videos Mentioned In This One:

The No Contact Rule 

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? 

Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! 

Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact 

Should You Seek Closure From Your Ex? 

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Crafting a Closure Letter to an Ex: A Strategic Approach

In the complex landscape of relationship recovery, the idea of writing a closure or goodbye letter to an ex-partner often emerges as a contentious topic. Many people grapple with the decision, hoping to find a way to either move on or reignite a spark that once existed. This deliberation is not only common among those who reach out to me through various channels but also a frequent subject of discussion during coaching calls.

The True Intentions Behind a Closure Letter

The fundamental question to ask before sending a closure letter is: What is the true intention behind it? While many claim to seek closure, a deep introspection often reveals a desire to use the letter as a means to re-enter their ex's life. This hidden agenda, masked as a quest for closure, could potentially be a disguised attempt to rekindle the relationship.

The Illusion of Closure

Seeking closure from an ex-partner, especially in the form of a letter, can sometimes be an act of self-deception. It's crucial to understand that closure is a personal journey, not necessarily contingent on an ex's validation or response. By expecting a definitive answer from an ex, one might be inadvertently prolonging the healing process and avoiding the acceptance of the current reality.

The Dilemma of Waiting

The concept of waiting indefinitely for an ex to return is a precarious position to be in. It's vital to set a personal timeline, a point beyond which you allow yourself the freedom to move forward, emotionally open to new possibilities. This approach doesn't negate the residual feelings for an ex but rather acknowledges the need to live a life not entirely hinged on their potential return.

The No Contact Rule: A Double-Edged Sword

No contact is a strategic choice often employed post-breakup. However, sending a closure letter can contradict this approach, potentially undermining its effectiveness. If the letter is perceived as a backdoor to re-establishing contact, it might dilute the impact of the no contact period, giving the ex-partner an impression of your continued availability and thereby reducing their incentive to truly comprehend the loss of the relationship.

Closure as Self-Generated

Real closure comes from within, not from the responses (or lack thereof) of an ex. It's about reaching a point of self-realization and acceptance, where the need for an external affirmation diminishes. This internal closure allows for personal growth and the ability to move forward, irrespective of an ex's actions or decisions.

When is a Closure Letter Appropriate?

There are instances where sending a closure letter might be beneficial, especially when it's seen as a final step of letting go, without expectations of rekindling the relationship. If approached with honesty and clarity, and after a significant period of no contact, such a letter can sometimes serve as a respectful conclusion to a chapter in one's life.

Conclusion

The decision to write a closure letter to an ex is laden with emotional complexity and should be approached with introspection and honesty about one's true intentions. It's essential to recognize that closure is a personal journey and not contingent on an ex's response. The focus should be on self-healing and moving forward, with or without the ex's involvement in your life. In some cases, a well-considered closure letter can be a part of this healing process, but it should not be seen as a means to an end or a strategy to reignite a past relationship.

How Does An Ex Come Back and Why?

In this podcast, Coach Lee walks you through your ex's journey back to you. He discusses why and how an ex comes back to you after they broke up with you. Watch the video version of this podcast at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iooao52p_X8 

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Videos Mentioned In This One:

The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg&t=767s

Help! My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9lsTdeq3pWo&t=415s

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How Does An Ex Come Back and Why?

In this video, Coach Lee walks you through your ex's journey back to you. He discusses why and how an ex comes back to you after they broke up with you.

Get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/

See the accompanying article: How does an ex come back after a breakup

Videos Mentioned In This One:

The No Contact Rule: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQR5Wefd-Uc

What Is My Ex Thinking During No Contact? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TCKTPQCuEg

Also see: My Ex Says There's No Chance Of Us Getting Back Together! 

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Also see: Understanding Your Ex's Journey Back to You: Insights into how an ex comes back and the Reconciliation Process

Discussing the intricate journey of an ex-partner back into a relationship is a topic that resonates deeply with many who have experienced breakups. It's crucial to understand the mental and emotional processes your ex undergoes post-breakup, especially if there's a desire for reconciliation. This journey, often obscured by the lack of contact and further complicated by the temptation to monitor their social media, is a path laden with various stages and realizations.

The Relief Stage: A Deceptive Beginning
Initially, your ex might exhibit signs of relief. This is one of the stages of a breakup for an ex. This phase, particularly painful to witness if you're still in close proximity, is often misunderstood. They seem happy, liberated even, but this is just the beginning. Their sense of relief stems from overcoming the hurdle of the breakup itself, not from the loss of the relationship. It's a temporary phase where they feel they've escaped a challenging situation.

The Adjustment Phase: Realization Sets In
As they start adjusting to life without you, the reality of the breakup begins to sink in. This period is marked by loneliness and a dawning realization that life isn’t as rosy as they anticipated. Memories of the relationship, both good and bad, start to resurface, leading them to question their decision.

The Duration of Each Stage
It's important to note that there's no set timeline for these stages. The relief phase could be brief or extended, but it's typically shorter than anticipated. Human emotions and reactions are not mathematical equations; they vary greatly from person to person.

The Importance of No Contact
The strategy of the no contact rule plays a pivotal role in this journey. By maintaining distance, you allow your ex to experience the full impact of the breakup. It's crucial for them to understand what life without you truly feels like. This realization is often the catalyst for them to start missing you and reconsider their decision.

The Curiosity and Testing Phase: Tentative Reconnections
When your ex begins to miss you, they enter the testing phase. This is a critical period where they might reach out, albeit in a cautious and casual manner. They're testing the waters, unsure of your reaction and their own feelings. It’s a phase marked by uncertainty and a reevaluation of their decision to break up.

Rebuilding Attraction and Trust
If your ex reaches out, this is not the time for grand gestures or intense emotional discussions. Instead, it’s about rebuilding attraction and trust through gradual, positive interactions. Avoid the urge to rehash past issues initially; focus on establishing a new, healthier dynamic.

The Final Phase: Reuniting and Reflecting
The journey culminates in a reunion, but the work doesn't end there. Both partners need to reflect on what led to the breakup and make concerted efforts to address these issues. It’s about understanding, adapting, and ensuring that past mistakes aren’t repeated.

Conclusion
Understanding your ex's journey back to you involves recognizing the various emotional stages they navigate post-breakup. From initial relief to eventual reconsideration and reaching out, each phase plays a crucial role in their decision-making process. Patience, introspection, and a willingness to adapt are key to navigating this journey successfully. Remember, reconciliation is not just about getting back together; it's about building a stronger, more resilient relationship.