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Coach Lee is a world-renown relationship coach who helps people get an ex back after a breakup, save a marriage, and become more attractive. Lee has coached people in relationships since 2000. His website is https://MyExBackCoach.com and includes hundreds of articles and videos. Lee has lectured at Pepperdine University and others, is a TED educator on the science of breakups, and has been interviewed by major media including The New York Times, USA Today, The Today Show, New York Post, Men’s Health, L.A. Business Journal, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mail, Metro UK, Bravo TV, Yahoo Lifestyle, Glamor, and MSN among others. Lee uses real-life experience with breakups along with his work for 20 years providing relationship-recovery coaching. He has multiple certifications for relationship coaching & consulting. Get information on his Emergency Breakup Kit & Emergency Marriage Kit at MyExBackCoach.com. SUBSCRIBE to this podcast as well as on YouTube at https://youtube.com/myexbackcoach so you don’t miss videos on saving relationships, keeping love strong, and the science of attraction. INSTAGRAM @RealCoachLee
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Friday Jun 04, 2021
Games Your Ex Plays When They Want You Back
Friday Jun 04, 2021
Friday Jun 04, 2021
In this episode Coach Lee reveals 5 games that an ex will often play if they want you back. Watch the video of this podcast at Games Your Ex Plays When They Want You Back
Navigating the Intricate Games of Exes: Insights from Coach Lee
In the realm of relationships and breakups, understanding the subtle games played by ex-partners can be both intriguing and challenging. Coach Lee, a seasoned expert in relationship dynamics, offers a comprehensive guide to interpreting these games in his insightful video. This article delves into the nuances of these games, offering a deeper understanding for those grappling with the complexities of post-breakup interactions.
1. The Friendship Ploy
One common tactic employed by exes is the offer of friendship. This often occurs a few weeks post-breakup, a period when distance and reflection have set in. Contrary to initial appearances, this is not always a straightforward offer. It’s a strategic move, born out of a mix of longing and uncertainty. The ex isn't necessarily sure about wanting you back but is also apprehensive about the growing distance. This ambiguity is a significant sign, especially if it aligns with other behaviors or consistent contact.
2. Displaying Anger over Lack of Contact
A less frequent, yet notable game involves the ex showing resentment because you haven't reached out post-breakup. This reaction can seem paradoxical since they initiated the breakup. However, it's a manifestation of their expectations and assumptions being challenged. It’s a test to see if you are still emotionally invested in them.
3. The Jealousy Bait
Another manipulative strategy is what Coach Lee terms as the 'jealousy bait.' Here, an ex might intentionally display themselves with a new romantic interest to provoke a reaction from you. It's a calculated move to boost their ego by making them feel more desirable and to gauge your interest level. In such cases, Coach Lee advises maintaining a composed demeanor, not reacting to such provocations.
4. Feigning Concern with 'Are You Okay?' Messages
An ex reaching out to check on your well-being might appear considerate at first glance. However, it could be a subtle game to trigger a response from you, reaffirming their importance in your life. It's a tactic to coax you into showing continued interest or concern, thereby boosting their ego.
5. The Status of Belongings
Finally, a common game revolves around the status of personal belongings. An ex might create situations around retrieving or returning items as a pretext for maintaining contact or as a symbol of reluctance to fully let go. This hesitance can signify lingering feelings or an unwillingness to close the chapter completely.
Understanding and Responding to These Games
Navigating these games requires a blend of insight, patience, and emotional intelligence. Coach Lee emphasizes the importance of not responding in kind but maintaining a calm, collected demeanor. Showing strength and confidence, without hostility or excessive eagerness, can be pivotal in these interactions.
Moreover, Coach Lee advises against accepting the offer of friendship on face value. Instead, he suggests engaging with an ex-partner in a manner that maintains your dignity and self-respect. This involves not acting like a friend but still displaying polite, nonchalant behavior.
When faced with expressions of anger or concern from an ex, a casual and unbothered response is key. It demonstrates maturity and self-assuredness, qualities that are attractive and may even shift the dynamics of your interaction.
In the case of jealousy bait, the recommended approach is to not engage or show any visible reaction. This stoic response can be disarming and may even lead to a reconsideration of their tactics.
Finally, dealing with the issue of belongings should be handled with a pragmatic and unemotional approach. Demonstrating that you are moving on, irrespective of their actions, is essential.
Conclusion
Understanding the psychology behind an ex's actions post-breakup is crucial in navigating these waters. Coach Lee's insights offer a roadmap for dealing with these situations effectively. It's about striking a balance between showing self-respect and not falling prey to manipulative games. By maintaining a composed and confident demeanor, one can navigate these complex emotional terrains with dignity and grace.
This article, inspired by Coach Lee's video, aims to provide a deeper understanding of the intricate games ex-partners may play. It serves as a guide for those trying to decode these interactions and make empowered decisions in their post-breakup journey.
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