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Coach Lee is a world-renown relationship coach who helps people get an ex back after a breakup, save a marriage, and become more attractive. Lee has coached people in relationships since 2000. His website is https://MyExBackCoach.com and includes hundreds of articles and videos. Lee has lectured at Pepperdine University and others, is a TED educator on the science of breakups, and has been interviewed by major media including The New York Times, USA Today, The Today Show, New York Post, Men’s Health, L.A. Business Journal, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mail, Metro UK, Bravo TV, Yahoo Lifestyle, Glamor, and MSN among others. Lee uses real-life experience with breakups along with his work for 20 years providing relationship-recovery coaching. He has multiple certifications for relationship coaching & consulting. Get information on his Emergency Breakup Kit & Emergency Marriage Kit at MyExBackCoach.com. SUBSCRIBE to this podcast as well as on YouTube at https://youtube.com/myexbackcoach so you don’t miss videos on saving relationships, keeping love strong, and the science of attraction. INSTAGRAM @RealCoachLee
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Friday Feb 04, 2022
Does My Ex Know I Still Love Them?
Friday Feb 04, 2022
Friday Feb 04, 2022
Are you wondering if your ex knows that you still love them? Does your ex boyfriend still love you? Does your ex boyfriend still love you?
Coach Lee answers those questions and more in this powerful video that explores how your ex views you and your feelings toward them after a breakup.
Get information on Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit at https://myexbackcoach.com/emergency-breakup-kit/ and how it can help you get your ex back!
View the video version of this podcast at: Does My Ex Still Know I Love Them, Him, or Her?
Accompanying article at: Does my ex know I still love them, her, him?
Videos mentioned in this one: Stages Your Ex Goes Through During No Contact: Stages An Ex Goes Through During No Contact Rule
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Understanding the Dynamics of Post-Breakup Emotions and Strategies
I'm Coach Lee, and today I want to share insights into a question that often plagues those enduring the aftermath of a breakup: does your ex know that you still love them? This concern is prevalent among many who still harbor feelings for their ex and wish to reconcile.
The Misconception of Indifference
A common tactic I've observed is people acting cold or indifferent towards their ex. They ignore texts, calls, and even respond harshly. This behavior stems from a misconception of what is deemed the 'right' thing to do. Ironically, this approach can lead to frustration and confusion. For instance, a woman once confided in me about ignoring her ex-boyfriend's attempts to reach out three times within a week. She was puzzled when he eventually stopped trying to contact her. In such scenarios, it's crucial to understand that complete disregard can be more harmful than arguments or disagreements. Ignoring someone can be interpreted as a lack of interest or rejection, which often leads the other person to move on.
The Balance of Hope and Reservation
It's essential to strike a balance. While it's important to convey some hope of reconciliation, maintaining a level of reservation is equally vital. Some individuals err by overly emphasizing their willingness to reconcile, unwittingly facilitating an easy breakup. They remove the element of consequence from their ex's decision to end the relationship, creating an assumption that reconciliation could happen effortlessly.
The Psychology of an Ex
From my studies on post-breakup psychology, I can affirm that most ex-partners presume you still hold feelings for them. They often believe that winning you back would be straightforward, primarily because they initiated the breakup. This assumption positions them as more desirable, diminishing your perceived value. However, this dynamic can shift. Sometimes, an ex might fear losing you for good, especially when they sense you might move on. This fear can be advantageous, as it prompts them to reassess their decision and acknowledge the value of what they've relinquished.
The Power of No Contact
This brings us to the strategy of no contact, a method I've seen yield positive results in numerous cases. By not reaching out or showing overt concern, you introduce a sense of mystery and uncertainty. Your ex begins to question the breakup and may start to regret taking you for granted. However, it's crucial to note that this strategy doesn't guarantee success in every situation, but it's often effective in making an ex reconsider their actions and potentially reignite their interest in you.
Encouraging Reconsideration
A significant part of this process involves allowing your ex to experience the reality of the breakup. In the immediate aftermath, they might feel relief, but with time, they might start to miss what you both shared. If during this period, they perceive that you might be slipping away, the urgency to reconnect can intensify.
Respecting Yourself in the Process
It's vital to approach this situation with self-respect and dignity. While it's natural to want to alleviate any discomfort your ex might feel, doing so can be counterproductive if you're hoping for reconciliation. You shouldn't teach your ex that they can break up with you without consequence. Instead, it's important to show them that you value yourself enough to move on, even if it's not what you desire.
The Risk of Misunderstanding Concern
There's a misconception that showing your ex you no longer love them might deter them from coming back. However, the opposite is often true. Instilling a sense of loss and concern in your ex is more likely to make them realize the gravity of their decision. It's about striking a balance between showing some level of detachment while still being open to the possibility of reconciliation.
Conclusion
So, does your ex know you still love them? If you're asking this question, the answer is likely yes. Your focus should be on subtly challenging this assumption.
Creating a sense of doubt in their mind can be the catalyst for them to reconsider their decision and potentially lead to a successful reunion. Remember, the goal is not just to get back together but to foster a relationship where both partners value and respect each other.
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