Coach Lee

They Think You're Losing When You Wait After A Breakup

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Waiting after a breakup can feel like you’re losing ground — like you’re doing nothing while the other person moves on. Silence feels uncomfortable. Restraint feels risky. And the urge to reach out can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I explain why waiting feels so painful, why it often goes against your instincts, and what’s actually happening beneath the surface when you don’t chase, argue, or try to force clarity. What feels like losing from the inside often looks very different from the outside.

We’ll also talk about how this dynamic shows up not only after breakups, but in long-term relationships and marriages — where reacting too quickly or emotionally can quietly push someone further away.

Waiting isn’t about giving up. It isn’t about pretending you don’t care. And it isn’t about doing nothing. It’s about not undermining your position while emotions settle and reality sets in.

If you’re struggling with the urge to reach out, worried that time is slipping away, or afraid that waiting means you’re being forgotten, this episode will help you see the situation more clearly — and respond from strength instead of fear.

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Why They Are Still Silent

Silence can be one of the hardest parts of a breakup or separation. When someone stops reaching out, stops talking, or shuts down emotionally, the quiet can feel heavier than the conflict itself.

In this episode, Coach Lee explains why silence happens, why it often has more to do with emotional avoidance than indifference, and how reacting the wrong way can push people further away.

This conversation applies whether you’re dealing with an ex who hasn’t reached out, a spouse you’re separated from, or a marriage where you live together but barely speak. Silence doesn’t always mean it’s over. Often, it means something is unresolved and waiting for the pressure to ease.

Understanding what silence really is can help you avoid panic-driven decisions and give you a better chance of reconnecting with clarity and steadiness. 

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Should You Text Your Ex On Christmas?

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Christmas has a way of stirring up old emotions. Memories resurface, loneliness hits harder, and the temptation to reach out to an ex can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, I talk through the real question behind “Should you text your ex on Christmas?”—and why the answer isn’t as simple as yes or no. We’ll look at what a holiday text actually communicates, how it’s often received on the other end, and when reaching out helps versus when it quietly sets you back.

If you’re trying to get an ex back, protect your dignity, or avoid making a decision you’ll regret once the holiday passes, this episode will give you clarity and direction—without guilt, pressure, or false hope.

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Why They Really Pull Away

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When someone you love suddenly pulls away, it can feel confusing and unsettling. Whether it is your spouse, partner, or ex, emotional distance does not always mean the relationship is ending. In this episode, Coach Lee explains the real reasons people become quiet or withdrawn and what you can do to respond in a way that actually brings connection instead of pushing them further away.

You will learn:

• What emotional withdrawal usually means
• Why overcommunicating or pushing for answers often makes things worse
• Why silence or distance is sometimes about stress, burnout, or overwhelm
• How to stay steady instead of reacting out of fear
• How to give space without creating emotional coldness
• What to do if the distance continues or becomes a breakup

This episode is for anyone who is feeling a shift in their marriage, relationship, or situation with an ex and wants clarity on how to handle it with calm and confidence.

More resources from Coach Lee:
• Emergency Breakup Kit: MyExBackCoach.com/ebk
• Free Mini Course to Save Your Marriage: MarriageRadio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/m
• Coaching Sessions: https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

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Signs No Contact Is Working

 

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In this episode, Coach Lee takes you deep into the psychology behind the no contact rule and explains the real, often overlooked signs that no contact is working on your ex. Breakups are emotionally chaotic, and when you’re the one staying silent, it’s easy to assume that nothing is happening on the other side.

But in reality, your silence creates a shift in the dynamic, and that shift almost always produces visible — and invisible — changes in your ex’s behavior. Coach Lee breaks down each sign in detail, starting with micro-boundaries: the unfollows, refollows, profile edits, story views, and little digital breadcrumbs that reveal your ex is watching you more closely than you think.

Emergency Breakup Kit (MyExBackCoach.com/ebk)

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He also explains why your ex might suddenly check in with your friends or family, linger longer in conversations, or fish for updates about you — all indirect ways of staying connected without contacting you directly. You’ll also learn how to recognize when your ex softens their boundaries by unblocking you, making their profile public again, or allowing you to see more of their activity.

These subtle shifts often reflect internal conflict and emotional uncertainty. Coach Lee also unpacks the meaning behind inconsistent behavior: deleted posts, sudden mood changes, and swings between confidence and sadness that show the breakup isn’t as settled in their mind as they want others to believe.

Another major sign discussed in this episode is the use of emotional decoys — social media quotes, “moving on” posts, and vague messages that are really designed to get your attention or test whether you’re still watching.

Coach Lee explains why these decoys usually mean your ex is conflicted, not confident, and how to interpret them without breaking no contact. Finally, you’ll hear why it matters when your ex isn’t afraid of being misinterpreted.

When they like your posts, watch your stories, or send something small and casual, it often shows they aren’t worried that you’ll assume too much — a sign that they’re more comfortable with connection than distance. If you’re using the no contact rule and feeling unsure about whether it’s making any difference, this episode will give you clarity and help you understand the real emotional process happening on the other side of the breakup.

It’s honest, practical, and grounded in years of experience working with thousands of individuals trying to get their ex back.

By the end of the episode, you’ll know exactly what to look for, why these signs matter, and how to stay steady in your no contact journey so you don’t sabotage your chances of reconnecting.

What If My Ex Texts Me During No Contact?

What do you do when your ex suddenly reaches out during no contact?

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A lot of people panic, overthink, or respond too quickly — and that’s usually where things go wrong. In this episode, I explain what an ex’s text actually means, why it happens, and how to respond without losing the progress you’ve made.

You’ll learn:
• Why an ex sends a “temperature check”
• How to avoid breaking no contact the wrong way
• What their message reveals about their mindset
• The smartest way to respond — or not respond
• How your silence shapes their emotional reaction

If you're trying to get your ex back or simply want clarity during one of the most confusing moments after a breakup, this episode will help you stay calm, confident, and in control. Get my Reunion Blueprint at https://reunionblueprint.com 

Are You Addicted To Your Ex?

Are You Addicted to Your Ex?

Are you really still in love with your ex… or are you addicted to them?

In this episode, Coach Lee explains why missing your ex can feel less like heartbreak and more like withdrawal. When a relationship ends, your brain is still craving the dopamine, the validation, the familiarity—and that craving can make you obsess, beg, stalk their social media, or feel like you’ll never be okay without them.

But here’s the truth:

That desperate pull toward your ex isn’t love. It’s chemical. And if you don’t break that addiction, you can actually push them further away and destroy any chance of getting them back.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What “ex addiction” really is and how it works in your brain

• The signs you’re addicted—not just heartbroken

• How this addiction ruins your chances of reconciliation

• How to break the cycle so your ex starts to miss you instead

• Why your silence, stability, and self-control are more powerful than begging or chasing

This isn’t about pretending you don’t care. It’s about getting control of your heart again so that you can heal, gain clarity… and if it’s meant to be, give your ex a reason to come back on their own.

When Your Ex Goes Too Far

When a breakup happens, there’s usually pain… but sometimes an ex pushes it further. Maybe they take advantage of your silence, try to get a reaction, play games, or say things they know will cut deep. There comes a point where you look at the situation and realize, “This is not love anymore. This is disrespect.”

In this episode, I talk about what it means when your ex goes too far, why they do it, and what it reveals about them — not you. You’ll learn why stepping back isn’t weakness, why protecting your dignity is powerful, and how your silence can become the moment they finally feel the loss.

If you’ve been hurt, manipulated, or made to feel like your pain didn’t matter… this is for you.

Resources Mentioned:
– The Emergency Breakup Kit: If you want to get your ex back the right way, without chasing or losing your self-respect, this series gives you a guided plan. Go to https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk

– Masculine Destiny (for men): A training course on leadership, presence, emotional steadiness, and becoming a man who is respected and desired. Go to https://MasculineDestiny.com

– Private Coaching Session with me: If you need personal guidance on your exact situation, you can work with me one-on-one. Go to https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

 

They Want A "Break" - What To Do

When the person you love says they “need a break,” it can feel like the ground shifts beneath you.

One moment, everything feels steady but the next, you’re trying to make sense of the distance that came out of nowhere. You might replay every word, every moment, searching for clues. But what most people don’t realize is that when someone asks for a "break," it’s not always about needing time alone.

It’s often about uncertainty, fear, and emotional confusion.

In this episode, Coach Lee talks about what a “break” really means in a relationship as well as what it doesn’t mean.

You’ll learn how to handle this painful situation without losing your sense of strength or self-respect - and hopefully without losing the one you love.

Many people make the mistake of chasing, pleading, or trying to reason with the person who asked for space.

That reaction feels natural, but it often drives the other person even further away. Lee explains why calmness, restraint, and patience are far more powerful than panic in this situation.

He also discusses the deeper psychology behind why people ask for breaks.

Sometimes, even often, it’s not about needing distance from you but is about wanting relief from the pressure of their own confusion.

They call it “space,” but in many cases, they’re really trying to see what life feels like without you, while still keeping you within reach.

It’s a form of emotional testing (not just for you but for them), and how you respond can determine what happens next.

Coach Lee shares how real love isn’t destroyed by silence or time apart but is revealed by it. If your connection is genuine, the distance will deepen their awareness of your absence.

But if it fades quickly, that truth can be painful yet freeing.

Either way, clarity comes through time, not through chasing or efforts to convince them to end the break.

Whether you’re married, dating, or recently broken up, this episode will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface when your partner says they need a break.

You’ll hear practical advice on what to do (and what not to do) so that you protect your value, keep your dignity, and give love its best possible chance to return.

More from Coach Lee:

🔹 The Emergency Breakup Kit – step-by-step plan to get your ex back at https://MyExBackCoach.com/ebk

🔹 Coaching with Coach Lee – one-on-one professional guidance for your situation at https://myexbackcoach.com/book-with-coach-lee/

🔹 Masculine Destiny - a guide for men who want to be more successful with women at https://MasculineDestiny.com

Stages of No Contact For An Avoidant Ex

When you go no contact with an avoidant ex, it might look like they don’t care — but that’s not what’s really happening beneath the surface.

In this episode, Coach Lee breaks down the true stages of no contact for an avoidant ex — what they feel, how they process silence, and why their calmness often ends with sudden panic or regret.

Avoidant exes don’t handle emotional loss the way secure people do. At first, they feel relief — convinced that distance equals peace. But that “peace” eventually cracks. What follows is a slow unraveling that ends in what Lee calls punctuated equilibrium — a sudden emotional rupture after weeks or months of suppression.

You’ll discover:

• Why avoidants appear cold right after the breakup

• The point when silence starts working on them internally

• Why they often resurface after long gaps of quiet

• How no contact reveals their attachment fears and triggers realization

This isn’t about manipulation — it’s about understanding how an avoidant’s emotional system reacts to loss.

If you’ve wondered whether your ex still thinks about you, this episode will help you see the patterns behind their silence — and the moment it finally breaks.

🎧 Listen now and learn the psychological stages your avoidant ex goes through during no contact.

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